Friday, October 22, 2021

The tangled threads of life -

transitive verb. 1a : to disengage or separate the threads of : disentangle.
 b : to cause to come apart by or as if by separating the threads of. 2 : to resolve
the intricacy, complexity, or obscurity of : clear up unravel a mystery.

Life has had many moments lately where I've felt tangled in a web of 
unhappiness, loss and pain. I don't like to use my spot here in the blog
 world to 'air my dirty linen', moan and groan about aging and health
issues, disparage family or friends, or write reams about negative
 pandemic issues etc. 

I strive to make this my 'happy place' where I can share good things.
Nature, travel, the garden, decorating, photography, fashion, cooking and
 baking. During the past few weeks the deaths of two much-loved
 travel friends, one in the UK, the other in Arizona, and then last
 Friday a dear family member - a second cousin in the UK - have brought
 me great sadness.
My thoughts have been for the families of those three special people.
 All will be so missed by so many.

My own current personal mobility issue, due to what seems to be a
 major right leg hamstring strain, is making walking, bending, any
 type of movement, so painful. It's definitely knocking me for a loop! 
I started PT two weeks back and have to admit I've yet to receive
 any relief. I'm good about doing the exercises at home on days when
 I don't go to the facility, but I still have excruciating pain.
Anyway, I'll keep going and hope this condition will eventually be resolved
 and I can get out of bed and stand up in the morning without screaming!


Leaving you with some pretty Autumn peeks for the weekend. . . . which
hope will be enjoyable for you and your loved ones. 

Autumn Collage - 2020

My house - Autumn 2021


  1. Dear Mary,
    Not feeling well physically, and not being able to travel to see your loved ones, plus hearing of the passed of dear ones all combine to make one's outlook blue. I am very sorry for all of this, and pray that you will soon feel better.
    I think the current world situation contributes to tangled thoughts, too. There is so much confusion and distortion.

    Our homes are truly places of refuge and comfort these days, and you've made yours so cozy and beautiful. Have a good weekend, dear Mary.


    1. Thanks Lorrie - you are so right about having a home as a comfy refuge when so many are totally homeless.
      Today I feel a wee bit better after a good long night with very strange dreams, lol!

  2. So sorry to hear that you are having such pain, Mary. I wish there was something I could do to make things better. x

    1. Thanks dear - you are too kind. I shouldn't moan when so many have much worse to deal with.
      Hope you are doing much better by now - we are both thinking of you and sending love.

  3. Dear Mary - your blog is always full of happy moments and much interest too, so I am really sad to learn that you are still suffering from the awful pain in your leg. Loosing two dear friends and a much loved family member are difficult to cope with at the best of times but made more difficult during this strange period we are all living through. We are both thinking of you and sending you our love from across this side of the pondXX

    1. Rosemary I so appreciate your good thoughts and wishes. I just don't feel great when in pain, and this is definitely pain - perhaps actually from my back they now say! Not surprising as there's been a lot going on there for many years! Hoping to work through it and get back on my feet soon.
      Happy weekend.

  4. Oh dear Mary, I am so sorry to read this. The loss of three dear ones simultaneously is very difficult, and my heart goes out to you. I do hope you get some relief from your PT, or in another way, as it really is exhausting living with such pain. Your pretty pictures of Autumn cheer us all, and I hope your beautiful home gives solace in these strange times, which despite the 'opening up' rhetoric, seem to have no end in sight! Thoughts, prayers, hugs, love xxxx

    1. Trish you are so kind to write. I think of all you've been going through so far away and know it has been very hard for all in Australia and NZ. Here's to better days soon, it's getting so wearing, especially to those of us in our later years, sigh!!!!!
      Hugs - Mary

  5. Dearest Mary,
    It is already hard enough for a young and healthy person to live at present times with way too many restrictions!
    Let alone if we at our age try to balance body and soul and stay positive and move onwards.
    Not easy...
    Hoping that your pain will go down.
    Today we biked 25 km and it was 28°C and it felt so balmy; that helps you feel happy.
    Big hugs,

    1. You hit the nail on the head here dear Mariette!
      Great you guys still can bike - pedal for me too please!!!! Actually the PT person yesterday told me she'll get me on a bike before I know it - just the thought made me cringe!
      Happy weekend - beautiful weather at last.

    2. Nothing better than being out in the fresh air! 🤗

  6. I'm sorry to hear that life is treating you cruelly at the moment. Physical pain is hard to deal with at the best of times and when it coincides with other problems it's doubly difficult. Your collages, however, are as delightful as ever. Take care.

    1. Thanks John. Thinking of you and bet you are out walking in the lovely English countryside and cool temps. I have such fond memories of Devon in Autumn as a child - even then it was my favorite season!

  7. My dear Mary,
    I am so very sorry to hear about the tough times you are having. Not much else matters when you are in constant pain. All I can offer is a safe and warm place in the country.

    1. You know me and pain only too well dear Gina!
      I wish we could visit the villa while the colors are so pretty - I'm sure I'd feel better in no time!
      Hugs -

  8. Mary, everything you do is managed with style and grace. Even the color choices you make are of the gentle, soothing variety. Your photographic skill is amazing ..... I wish you better health, absence of pain and healing energy today .......

    1. I really appreciate your kind, caring words Helen.
      What would life be without my dear blog friends wishing me well? Nowhere near as happy that's for sure!

  9. Dear Mary, I am sorry to know you are going through a rough patch, both physically and emotionally. Hopefully, your wonderful husband, lovely home and good friends will help, and your PT will take effect soon.

    1. Thank you Meike - fingers crossed I can get through this. Bob is a great help - always was of course - but now does a lot of things I can't manage.

  10. Oh Mary,
    I'm so sorry to hear that you are having a hard time at the moment. It's always so sad when we lose family members and friends. Obviously, as we get older, it will happen more but nothing makes it any easier. I think, when we get older, it takes us longer to heal so, try and hang in there and hopefully, the pain will ease a bit with each passing day. My elbow break is still painful after nearly five months but, it is getting there. Always thinking of you Mary and am sending virtual hugs and healing vibes. Much love. XXXX

    1. Thanks so much dear Jackie. I know what pain you've had to endure with your fracture - glad it's getting better.
      Yes, aging brings sadness and often deaths of dear ones. It's especially hard when one can't be there for family and friends far away. My cousin's funeral in Torquay is going to be online due to COVID restrictions, so I hope to be able to view it.

  11. Dear Mary,
    I am having difficulty with comments. I left you one a minute ago but Mr Google said something went wrong….. I will write to you my dear.
    Much love

  12. Mary, first let me say how very sorry I am for the loss of your two friends and your cousin. I can only imagine your sadness and pain at their loss. I will put you all on my pray lists. There are no words at times like these, just take things slow and savor your time and memories of these cherished friends and family.

    As for you, take things slow, do not overdue it and rest. This sounds incredible painful and even doing the exercises sounds like it hurst. Take a rest my friend you have been working hard all summer.

    Thinking of you and sending a big hug.

  13. Sorry you have so many things going wrong at the moment, nonetheless your post has a positive tone and I can see you are a cup half full sort of person. You have a lovely home and it looks like you make it welcoming and pretty, any visitor would probably have trouble leaving!

  14. Beautiful autumn pictures.
    I hope your leg is getting better. Thinking of you. Getting old some days is just not fun.
    Sad for all your losses too. Take care, dear one~


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